For those who know me can attest to the fact that I like being prepared and I like to have control of all my circumstances. Feeling out of control and not prepared is a scary and most often very discouraging place for me to be in. Parenting has been that only life experience where I feel like I have met my match as far as being in control and always being prepared. I have allowed things I have read, peoples comments and opinions,and the little voice inside my head to dictate and measure my success and/or failure as a mother. Women have a way with words, as you may know. We know how to build each other up but we are masters at knowing how to tear each other down. As mothers we all have this desire to be the best we can be. To have it all together, to be the mother of the year. NO ONE can see our failures or insecurities because, God forbid, we ever be labeled as a Bad Mom. Why do we do this to ourselves!!!!!!! We all know deep down inside that no one is perfect. We all have strengths and weakness. We are human beings for goodness sake!! Yet we continually judge each other or say things that tear each other down just because we have this need to feel better about our position in the world.
Can I be honest with you all......being a parent is hard. In the last couple of months I have agonized over ever decision, I have lost sleep, I have felt lonely, depressed, overwhelmed. I have felt ashamed because I was not able to give my son things that other moms have the ability to give to their kids. I have lost my temper, I have held my son and shed tears of joy, thankfulness, and desperation. Desperation, because I am so desperate to be the perfect Mom and yet I feel like I am constantly falling short. But over the last week or so the Lord has impressed on my heart a few things. He has shown me that in my weaknesses He is strong. In my desperation He is my calm in the storm of life. In my discouragement, He is my hope. And in my loneliness, He has never forsaken me.
I will never be the perfect Mom. My decisions and choices wont always be the most popular. I don't now and probably wont in the future have it all together ever second of everyday. But you know what.... that is Okay. Because our purpose as Mothers is not to perform for other Mom's, but to be transformed by God everyday into the Godly mother he desires us to be. So, and I place myself in this as well, I want to encourage all the mothers I know out there lets stop the performance. Lets be real, lets be honest, lets be doers of the Word and not hearers only, lets be the Mothers we are called by God to be.
Hebrews 12:1-3 (NIV)
"Therefore,
since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us
throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.
And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."
Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV)
"6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (ESV)
"But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong"